10 rules of your Woman’s mood management
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We may be the ones who cry, PMT and have tantrums and we all have our ‘moments' and mood swings. Here's how to deal with your boo’s everyday peaks and troughs
When she’s stressed-out with work
The problem with irritating colleagues, grumpy bosses and demanding clients is that you can't bite back. As a result, it's usually the person at home who ends up taking the flack. To prevent this happening, give her a little space to unwind when she comes home but encourage her to talk about her day over dinner and let her know you're there to help - but not as an emotional punching bag.
When she's horny (and you're not)
Nobody likes rejection - particularly of the physical kind. So next time you're declining her amorous advances think about how you'd feel if it was the other way around. Make it clear that while you might not be in the mood right now, you still fancy the pants off her. Then surprise her with your loving when she least expects it. Just don't go in a mood if she's "too tired".
When she’s short-tempered
Everyone has a different threshold when it comes to losing their temper but nobody should have to put up with anger and aggression from their partner. The best thing you can do when she’s having a hissy-fit is to walk away and leave her to calm down. If it's an ongoing issue it's important to talk about the root of the problem and whether she needs to seek professional help.
When she’s down in the dumps
Depression is not only isolating for the person suffering but it can be a lonely experience for partners too. Trying to keep their spirits up and avoid having your own mood dragged down can take its toll. Encourage your partner to talk to you - and a professional - if necessary. But be sure to make time for yourself too, whether it's meeting friends, shopping or a session in the gym.
When she’s tired
Lack of sleep makes us more irritable and less rational and is therefore a prime catalyst for arguments among couples. When you know she’s been burning the candle at both ends take everything her says with a pinch of salt and postpone any important discussions until she’s had a decent fix of shut-eye.
When she’s sulking
Sulking is a passive aggressive way of making a point and looking for some kind of reaction. When she sees she isn't getting a rise from you, she'll soon get bored. So kill her with kindness and pretend you haven't even noticed there’s something wrong and you'll wipe that frown off her face in no time.
When she’s drunk (and you're not)
If she’s had one too many the chances are she’s going to be either boisterous, amorous, incoherent, childish or aggressive. Whichever way, you're unlikely to be able to have a decent adult conversation with her. So as with a bored child, distraction is the only answer. Pass her her games console or whatever and watch her fall silent.
When she’s upset
When some girls get upset they have a natural ability to cry which releases a lot of the pent-up pressure. Others girl’s however think that crying and talking about their feelings is a sign of weakness. Encourage her to open up by letting her know that you're there when she’s ready but coax her gently and don't try to force the issue.
When she’s jealous
Jealousy is usually a knock-on effect of insecurity. Perhaps she has been hurt before or her self-esteem is low. If so, the more love you show her, the less likely she is to feel threatened by others. If the problem is your flirting or your friendship with an ex, set some rules about what is reasonable behaviour. If things get out of hand, ask her to think about seeing a counsellor about her self-esteem.
When she’s manic
When you're in the mood for kicking back and she’s bouncing around like a hyperactive child who's just devoured a family-sized bag of Haribo, it's time to give her a project to do. If DIY or gardening is out of the question, ask her to make you a playlist for your iPod. She gets something to focus her attentions on, you get peace and quiet... and a cool new playlist.
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We may be the ones who cry, PMT and have tantrums and we all have our ‘moments' and mood swings. Here's how to deal with your boo’s everyday peaks and troughs
When she’s stressed-out with work
The problem with irritating colleagues, grumpy bosses and demanding clients is that you can't bite back. As a result, it's usually the person at home who ends up taking the flack. To prevent this happening, give her a little space to unwind when she comes home but encourage her to talk about her day over dinner and let her know you're there to help - but not as an emotional punching bag.
When she's horny (and you're not)
Nobody likes rejection - particularly of the physical kind. So next time you're declining her amorous advances think about how you'd feel if it was the other way around. Make it clear that while you might not be in the mood right now, you still fancy the pants off her. Then surprise her with your loving when she least expects it. Just don't go in a mood if she's "too tired".
When she’s short-tempered
Everyone has a different threshold when it comes to losing their temper but nobody should have to put up with anger and aggression from their partner. The best thing you can do when she’s having a hissy-fit is to walk away and leave her to calm down. If it's an ongoing issue it's important to talk about the root of the problem and whether she needs to seek professional help.
When she’s down in the dumps
Depression is not only isolating for the person suffering but it can be a lonely experience for partners too. Trying to keep their spirits up and avoid having your own mood dragged down can take its toll. Encourage your partner to talk to you - and a professional - if necessary. But be sure to make time for yourself too, whether it's meeting friends, shopping or a session in the gym.
When she’s tired
Lack of sleep makes us more irritable and less rational and is therefore a prime catalyst for arguments among couples. When you know she’s been burning the candle at both ends take everything her says with a pinch of salt and postpone any important discussions until she’s had a decent fix of shut-eye.
When she’s sulking
Sulking is a passive aggressive way of making a point and looking for some kind of reaction. When she sees she isn't getting a rise from you, she'll soon get bored. So kill her with kindness and pretend you haven't even noticed there’s something wrong and you'll wipe that frown off her face in no time.
When she’s drunk (and you're not)
If she’s had one too many the chances are she’s going to be either boisterous, amorous, incoherent, childish or aggressive. Whichever way, you're unlikely to be able to have a decent adult conversation with her. So as with a bored child, distraction is the only answer. Pass her her games console or whatever and watch her fall silent.
When she’s upset
When some girls get upset they have a natural ability to cry which releases a lot of the pent-up pressure. Others girl’s however think that crying and talking about their feelings is a sign of weakness. Encourage her to open up by letting her know that you're there when she’s ready but coax her gently and don't try to force the issue.
When she’s jealous
Jealousy is usually a knock-on effect of insecurity. Perhaps she has been hurt before or her self-esteem is low. If so, the more love you show her, the less likely she is to feel threatened by others. If the problem is your flirting or your friendship with an ex, set some rules about what is reasonable behaviour. If things get out of hand, ask her to think about seeing a counsellor about her self-esteem.
When she’s manic
When you're in the mood for kicking back and she’s bouncing around like a hyperactive child who's just devoured a family-sized bag of Haribo, it's time to give her a project to do. If DIY or gardening is out of the question, ask her to make you a playlist for your iPod. She gets something to focus her attentions on, you get peace and quiet... and a cool new playlist.
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